I recently lost one of the most important people in my life. Actually, there were a lot of us that lost one of the most important people in our lives! Ruth Casey was one of those special people with the ability to touch lives and make us feel welcome and loved, worthy and appreciated.
My extended family is a good size and every one of us was close to our grandparents. My Grandmother was a generous and gentle soul, (although not to be pushed around). She was joyful and taught me a valuable lesson in life…she simply said “don’t look back”. She lived through the tragedies of losing her first babies, a set of twins. Lost three little grandchildren, her eldest son, more grandchildren, siblings, and her husband. She mourned them all feeling fully the pain of loss and the deep groaning of a broken heart. The thing that always held my awe was the way she kept her head up and pushed forward. Never being bitter or feeling sorry for herself she kept moving on. When I had the tendency to wallow in my own loss, she corrected me and told me not to look back. Those few words held so much wisdom.
There is nothing we can do to change some of our circumstances and sometimes we need to take the time it takes to let go, but once we start to move forward, there is no looking back. Life makes us get on. Learn, adjust, and go forward. After losing grandma and seeing a chapter close, we go forward as we become grandparents and apply the beautiful lessons and blessings she gave us. We love and teach, we nurture and help, we laugh and love….
Grandma Casey…artist, horsewoman, most excellent chef, mother, friend, sister…
Hands that have done so much.
Ruth and her eldest sister Esther…a little firecracker!